How to Tell if a Relationship is Karmic, Soulmate or Twin Flame?

from Conscious Reminder

We all desire to not just fall in love—but to be part of that “once in a lifetime” type of love story.

As we are evolving, so are our romantic relationships. No longer are we satisfied by those unions that are convenient or that seem to fulfill specific ideals that our families or society have taught us we should aspire to. We are searching for that once in a lifetime crazy type of love—but what really separates twin flames from soulmates and karmic relationships? 

The biggest truth is that one of these relationships isn’t better than the other—it just depends on what lifetime we are in, here on earth, and what lessons we currently are in the process of learning.

Sometimes we may experience none of these relationships in a lifetime, and in others we may experience all three. The reality is that we often don’t truly realize which type of relationship we had until long after it’s passed and the lessons have been absorbed.

One of the first relationships we usually enter into is a karmic one. Karmic relationships often are those lessons that we were unable to learn in a previous lifetime—these people aren’t meant to take it easy on us, because they are meant to change our way of life. The addiction of karmic relationships is that it seems no matter how many tries we give it—it just doesn’t seem to work. But that is because karmic relationships aren’t supposed to work out—we aren’t supposed to live our life with our karmic partner. It’s hard to accept, because it’s usually not an issue of love, or even about compatibility. Something is just off and doesn’t work, no matter how much we wish it did—but the worst decision we can make is to choose to not let go. Karmic relationships burn hot and seem almost intoxicating at times, but the entire point of these types of relationships is to come into our lives, change us—and then leave.

Often times, those people who married and divorced young have married their karmic relationship, instead of letting them go when the time came. The most important lesson for us is that we just have to be strong enough to let them move on when the time comes, because no matter what type of relationship we are in, we shouldn’t have to chain ourselves to it in order to not lose it.

Although some of us may experience several karmic relationships in our lifetime, the next stage after we conquer those lessons is often the soulmate love.

Soulmates can be just the best kind of love—they can be simple and sweet, yet as complex as the notes within a vintage Merlot.

Soulmates often are those we marry and choose to build a life with, because there is just a unique connection present. These are the feel good people in our lives, and they just seem to touch us on an entirely different level.
As wonderful as they can be though, soulmates don’t always take it easy on us.

One of the reasons that we get so confused by which type of relationship we are in, is because in all of these connections, challenges will be present.

None of these relationships are about appeasing us or making our egos comfortable.

Yet the soulmate differs from the karmic relationship by the type of lesson being learned and the way in which it is presented.

Karmic relationships are often about how we view the outside world and others—while the soulmate will trigger those internal lessons involving self-worth, fear, societal pressures and our worthiness of love.

We simply attract at whatever frequency we are currently vibrating on.

Soulmates are those who we feel an undeniable connection to—as if we’ve known one another before simply upon meeting.

The biggest indicator of a soulmate love is that they make us feel like it’s us that needs working on—not them or even issues that exist within the relationship.

Sometimes it’s even the feeling of not deserving the other person.

Certain soulmates come into our lives whose only purpose is to help us realize our greatness and to assist us in taking on those big questions involving the self and starting to discover the answers to further our evolution and process of self-awareness.
Soulmates are also the ones who care about us the most—versus the karmic lover whose only concern is of their own self and needs.

These beautiful types of bonds don’t necessarily have to be romantic even, for more often than not, we travel in similar soul circles within each lifetime—and those who are family aren’t necessarily those who we share blood with.

As transcending and eye-opening as the romantic relationship can be with a soulmate, it isn’t anything compared to the experience of being reconnected with our twin flame.

Twin flames are often regarded as an urban myth of the spiritually enlightened, but as society is raising their level of consciousness, the more this connection is occurring.

Twin flames are a mix of both karmic and soulmate tendencies—along with some entirely new qualities which will only further challenge our ego and sense of self.

Twin flames aren’t just those that we connect with on a soul level, but they are someone we share the same soul with.

As the theory states, twin flames were separated from one soul source in the beginning of time and split into two physical bodies.

There is a mirror like quality when we come into contact with our twin flame—everything that we have spent our lives running from or denying is suddenly in front of us.

These types of lovers confront us with our very fears and ego driven desires, but they aren’t just about what’s inside, they’re about how we interact with every facet of our life.

Not all of us will be reunited with our twin flame, but if we are, it has the possibility to be that once in a lifetime—ain’t nothing ever gonna be the same—type of love.

There will be challenges and fears present, without a doubt—there will be phases of running and chasing, depending upon the spiritual and personal development of both individuals.

But regardless of any of these challenges, it is possible to reunite and stay with our twin flame—although it is speculated that only occurs in one’s last lifetime here on earth.

Regardless of what type of romantic relationship we find ourselves in, there will be obstacles and challenges that have the potential to assist us in our growth and evolution. The one important thing to remember through all of these types of relationship, is that if someone is trying to move on—it’s vital that we let them go. Whether they are a karmic relationship whose only purpose is to come into our lives to be the catalyst of change, or if they are the soulmate whose here to challenge us to lovingly become the best person we can, or if they simply are our other half—there is no love that we will have to beg for or hold onto tightly to, out of fear of losing it.

Regardless of what type of relationship it is, the love we deserve is also the one that will want us as much we want it—because the truth is, if we do love someone, the only thing we can do is set them free, knowing that if it is meant to be—they will return. And if they don’t, then they’re just one of the most beautiful lessons we’ll learn.


My hatred of Authority, Along With My Loathing for the Pretensions, Heartlessness, and Sense of Entitlement of the Rich

by Chris Hedges; from OpEdNews

The following is an excerpt from WAGES OF REBELLION: The Moral Imperative of Revolt. Reprinted with permission from Nation Books 2015.

Wages of Rebellion
(image by Public Affairs /Nation Books)

The public’s inability to grasp the pathology of our oligarchic corporate elite makes it difficult to organize effective resistance. Compliant politicians, entertainers, and our vapid, corporate-funded popular culture and news media hold up the elites as leaders to emulate. We are repeatedly assured that through diligence and hard work we can join them. We are taught to equate wealth with success. This narrative keeps us from seeing the truth.

“The rich are different from us,” F. Scott Fitzgerald is said to have remarked to Ernest Hemingway, to which Hemingway allegedly replied, “Yes, they have more money.”

The exchange, although it never took place, does sum up a wisdom Fitzgerald had that eluded Hemingway. The rich are different. The cocoon of wealth and privilege permits the rich to turn those around them into compliant and expendable workers, hangers-on, servants, and sycophants. Wealth, as Fitzgerald illustrated in his 1925 novel The Great Gatsby– a tome on the depravity of the rich in the giddy world of speculation that would lead to the Depression–as well as his short story “The Rich Boy,” which appeared a year later, breeds a class of people for whom human beings are disposable commodities. Colleagues, business partners, clients, associates, shareholders, investors, employees, kitchen staff, servants, gardeners, tutors, personal trainers, even friends and family, bend to the whims of the wealthy or disappear. Once oligarchs achieve unchecked economic and political power, as they have in the United States, the citizens too become disposable. And that, in the eyes of the elite, is what we are.

“Let me tell you about the very rich,” Fitzgerald writes in “The Rich Boy.” “They are different from you and me. They possess and enjoy early, and it does something to them, makes them soft where we are hard, and cynical where we are trustful, in a way that, unless you were born rich, it is very difficult to understand. They think, deep in their hearts, that they are better than we are because we had to discover the compensations and refuges of life for ourselves. Even when they enter deep into our world or sink below us, they still think that they are better than we are. They are different.”

Aristotle, who saw extreme inequality as the fundamental cause of revolution, argues in Politics that the rise of an oligarchic state leads to one of two scenarios. The impoverished underclass can revolt and overthrow the oligarchs to rectify the imbalance of wealth and power, or it can submit to the tyranny of oligarchic rule.

The public face of the oligarchic class is carefully crafted by publicists and a compliant media. It bears little resemblance to the private face. This is hard for those who have not been admitted into the intimate circles of the elite to grasp. I, like Fitzgerald, was thrown into the embrace of the upper crust as a boy. I was sent to an exclusive New England boarding school at the age of ten as a scholarship student. I had classmates whose fathers–fathers they rarely saw otherwise–arrived at the school in their limousines accompanied by personal photographers (and at times their mistresses), so the press could be fed images of rich and famous men playing the role of dutiful dads. I spent time in the mansions of the ultra-rich and powerful, watching my classmates, who were children, callously order around men and women who worked as their chauffeurs, cooks, nannies, and servants. When the sons and daughters of the rich get into serious trouble, there are always lawyers, publicists, and political personages to protect them–George W. Bush’s life is a case study in the insidious affirmative action for the rich. The rich have a disdain for the poor–despite carefully publicized acts of philanthropy–and a haughty dislike of the middle class.

The lower classes are viewed as uncouth parasites, annoyances to be endured, sometimes placated, and always controlled in the quest to amass more power and money. My hatred of authority, along with my loathing for the pretensions, heartlessness, and sense of entitlement of the rich, comes from living among the privileged. It was a deeply unpleasant experience. I returned on summer breaks to the small town in Maine where my grandparents and relatives lived. They had more innate intelligence than most of my prep school classmates. I knew from a young age who my enemies were.

“They were careless people, Tom and Daisy,” Fitzgerald writes of the wealthy couple at the center of Gatsby’s life. “They smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness, or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made.”

“Those who have too much of the goods of fortune, strength, wealth, friends, and the like, are neither willing nor able to submit to authority,” Aristotle writes in Politics. “The evil begins at home; for when they are boys, by reason of the luxury in which they are brought up, they never learn, even at school, the habit of obedience.”

Oligarchs, as Aristotle, Machiavelli, Alexis de Tocqueville, Adam Smith, and Karl Marx knew, are schooled in the mechanisms of manipulation–subtle and overt repression and exploitation to protect their wealth and power. Foremost among their mechanisms of control is the control of ideas. Ruling elites ensure that the established intellectual class is subservient to an ideology–in this case, neoliberalism and globalization–that conveniently justifies their greed. “The ruling ideas are nothing more than the ideal expression of the dominant material relationships,” Marx wrote, “the dominant material relationships grasped as ideas.” [37]

The blanket dissemination of the ideology of neoliberalism through the media and the purging, especially in academia, of critical voices have permitted our oligarchs to orchestrate the industrial world’s largest income inequality gap. Nobel Prize–winning economist Joseph Stiglitz, in a May 2011 article titled “Of the 1%, by the 1%, for the 1%” in Vanity Fair, warned of the damage caused by the extreme concentration of wealth in the hands of an oligarchic elite. “In our democracy, 1% of the people take nearly a quarter of the nation’s income,” he writes.

In terms of wealth rather than income, the top 1% control 40%. . . . [As a result,] the top 1% have the best houses, the best educations, the best doctors, and the best lifestyles, but there is one thing that money doesn’t seem to have bought: an understanding that their fate is bound up with how the other 99% live. Throughout history, this is something that the top 1% eventually do learn. Too late. [38]

For every $1 that the wealthiest 0.1 percent amassed in 1980, they had an additional $3 in yearly income in 2008, David Cay Johnston explains in his article “9 Things the Rich Don’t Want You to Know About Taxes.”39 In the same period, the bottom 90 percent, Johnston says, added only one cent. Nearly half of the country is now classified as poor or low-income.40 The real value of the minimum wage has fallen by $3.44 since 1968.41

Oligarchs do not believe in self-sacrifice for the common good. They never have. They never will. And now that they have full control of the economy and the legal system, as well as the legislative and executive branches of government, along with our media outlets, they use power as a blunt instrument for personal enrichment and domination.


The poor professional


What is employment? It is rendering PAID LABOR for an EMPLOYER in order to earn your BREAD AND BUTTER — the bread and butter that will feed you, your kids, and the rest of your loved ones.

How and why did you get hired? You obtained your job because you have working knowledge in a particular field of expertise, which you earned from your studies. You got that job after having sold your expertise (and yourself) to some company that does business along your line of work.

Why the studies? Education teaches you the needed tricks in some particular school of thought, add to all basic knowledge. It also trains you in all other areas of the academics, thus teaching you to be a little “jack of all trades” outside of the field of interest on focus.

What else does education do? Education TEACHES YOU TO BE PROFESSIONAL.

What is professionalism? PROFESSIONALISM IS PRETENSE. Why so?

When you’re at work, in the effort to PROTECT your SOURCE of bread and butter, you have to PLEASE the goblins and the gods and make them believe that YOU ARE WORTH KEEPING and your expertise can still be of use; so no matter how many new people who do your job can be there to replace you, YOU ARE STILL THE MAN.

How to please? ACT THE PERSON YOU ARE NOT. Lick the asses of the corporate gods, say what they want to hear, and do what they want done, regardless of whether or not these are really academically sound, theoretically acceptable, realistic, attainable, or simply aligned with your belief of what is right a.k.a. personal or professional principles, FAIRNESS aside. When you feel you are being used, be PATIENT and TOLERANT, if only for the BREAD on the breakfast table. NO CHOICE. Yes, it’s been a sad reality that a lot of worthy professionals end up choosing to give up their source of income because of FRUSTRATION, be it with stupid bosses who are trying to earn their bread just the same (the goblins or the trolls), or with greedy workplace owners (the gods) who think of nothing else but PROFIT thus making stupid or, worse, inhuman policies and decisions.

With the aforementioned, it is a shame that intellectuals with principle and professional authority end up POORER than those whose abilities are limited ONLY to “dancing to the music” and to putting on those ties or wearing make up and looking good in the midst of all mediocrity. Hardly can any employee be appreciated because he is brilliant. This is one GRIM truth. When one is equipped, he ends up being USED and does not even get due recognition for what he is able to accomplish. The trolls always get the credit! When the professional has cut all the grass to make that beautiful lawn, the selfish goblins will make it their playground. And where is he? He’s not even allowed to play. There he is in his SAME OLD NOOK, maybe sharpening his age-old blades (which the gods don’t even want to replace) and preparing to mow another corner. With all the grass that he cleans up, he is paid the same or even being victim to all the cost-cutting measures and tighter circumstances against his work while he sees these corporate trolls buy a new car every year, get rebates and savings from the heavy taxes from which he himself is never spared, and enjoy all the travels and perks for FREE, charge to corporate funds.

Finally, the saddest fact: these corporate goblins always say that NOBODY IS INDISPENSABLE. Even if one has given so many substantial contributions to the progress of his workplace, when he ceases to kiss ass, when he gets fed up with all the PRETENSE, at a flick of a finger, all his value VANISHES like smoke. And he can be gone.

Isn’t it funny to be fooling yourself by believing that you have made a difference and to be falsely satiated with fulfillment when reality suggests that you’ve only made some greedy gods richer and given those starving trolls above you (worthy or not) more chances to become richer and to even look better than you do?

Well, well…if you still want some bread, say YES, SMILE, and never post this piece of writing on Facebook, you poor professional.